Many women falsely believe that if they serve their husbands, they are doormats. One woman wrote me recently and told me that she has never picked up after her husband because she didn’t want to be a “doormat.” She has equated serving her husband with being a doormat. One woman on my Instagram wrote the following:
“Women think they are being a ‘doormat’ for doing domestic tasks because for the last half a century, feminism has consistently demeaned and trivialized women’s traditional work to the point where many women won’t even consider it and even turn their noses up at it. I personally think that women need to reclaim this very important work of caring and nurturing and that if we did, over time the family unit could be restored, divorce and abortion would decline, and God would be restored as the center of the family.”
Women, we were created to be their husband’s help meet! They were created to pick up after him and serve him; make his life easier. I have never once heard a man complain that he was a doormat because he had to go to work every day and work hard for his family, yet women often complain. They seem to have more of a predisposition to complain and be unhappy. It’s probably why divorces are initiated by women up to 80 percent of the time. Women contemplate their “feelings” more than men and if they’re not happy in their marriage, they want to do something about it and it usually doesn’t involve changing themselves but their circumstances instead.
God tells us that the greatest of all is the servant of all. As we serve our husbands, we are serving Christ. When we pick up after them, we are picking up after Christ. Whatever we do, we are to do heartily as unto the Lord. The Apostle Paul wrote: “For though I be free from all men, yet have I made myself a servant unto all, that I might gain the more” (1 Corinthians 9:19).
As we serve others, we are ministering the Gospel to them. This world needs more servants, not less. It needs more wives willing to lovingly serve their husbands and families. When they are doing this, they are sharing the Gospel through their actions. Learn to love caring for your family and others. This is the ministry that the Lord has given to you, and it is good.
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.1 Peter 3:1,2
I watched the footage of secret service ushering Trump out of the Press Briefing Room. It was a perfect example of submission to authority. One of the most powerful men in the world was instructed to follow orders. And he responded immediately, without question. Would people say Trump is a doormat? I don’t think so. He is a command man through and through. Even he has to take orders.
It is very sad to see what feminism has done to women and society’s thinking now. Lori speaks often about us “remnants” who still believe in and practice biblical womanhood. We need to remain gentle, but exhibit very strong will, constitution and dedication to submitting to and obeying our husbands in everything so we can continue to show a great example of God’s true plan for women and his Word we should be following (and it is a beautiful plan), not society’s and surely not feminism. It is very frustrating how even other women’s perceptions have shifted over time. When I got married and had my first baby at 19 I was a cute little “barefoot and pregnant” stay at home mommy, and now 24 years later some people think I’m a lazy housewife that’s never had a job or an education. My how things have changed!
When I worked, I realized that I would rather be home doing laundry. So today, I enjoy folding clothes outside with the birds and butterflies, squirrels scampering by on the phone lines, and listening to little children playing next door, under the big blue sky. I’m the one living in a storybook! Laundry is much more enjoyable than my job ever was!
Laundry is much more enjoyable than my job ever was!
From ‘The Transformed Wife‘.