The Lila Rose Podcast E50
The billion dollar Taylor Swift Era’s tour and Barbie’s box office success show a culture hungry for presentations of the feminine. Today I share my thoughts on the way femininity is portrayed in the media as I consider what is toxic and what is authentic.
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Taylor Swift’s Global tour is approaching a billion dollars in North American ticket sales alone meanwhile women are flocking to the movie theater to see Barbie which has passed one billion dollars at the box office some are saying that Taylor Swift’s tour may be the highest grossing most lucrative tour of all time I think there’s a deep hunger for the representation of the feminine the color pink the feminine experience the love songs that Taylor sings about her ex or her dream man all of this is part of the feminine experience could it be that in a world that is pushing women to be more like men well at the same time often denigrating men there exists a deep hunger for the feminine but his femininity the color pink or what is true femininity of course I would argue femininity can include the color pink but it is so much more in this episode of the rose podcast we’re going to talk about true femininity and representations of it in media versus toxic femininity and representations of that in media our first sponsor is every life every life is America’s first pro-life diaper company these diapers are as good as any other brand they’re made with top-notch materials they are great they’re leak proof they’re cute they’re great you’re going to love this diaper brand check out everylife.com order your first batch of diapers you can use the code lila at checkout for off your order everylife.com America’s pro-life diaper company our Seven Weeks Coffee next sponsor is seven weeks coffee seven weekscoffee.com you can order delicious gourmet coffee it’s what I drink every morning and you by doing so you’re fueling the pro-life movement of all proceeds go to pro-life Pregnancy Resource Centers over have already been given to the pro-life cause ditch Pete’s ditch Starbucks check out seven weeks coffee so seven weekscoffee.com use the code Lyla at checkout for off your order the big question that hit the world last year with Matt Walsh’s film from the daily wire was what is a woman I think that question can be answered very simply by saying it’s a biological adult female but there’s so much more to being a woman than simply being an existing as a biological adult female the way to live out one’s femininity involves so much and so what does that look like what does true femininity look like and then what are all the sort of false models that are out there today in femininity recently as an example lizzo the pop singer has been accused of the sexual harassment of her staff she’s somebody who is very much on the pro body positivity train she is someone who’s very publicly very overweight she’s a very talented artist but part of her Persona is to celebrate being very overweight and many people criticize both the sexual harassment and and her celebration of obesity as a problem meanwhile we have a lot of women in media in culture today who are really selling their bodies I mean only fans is a mushrooming business with millions of people on it many of them women who are selling their bodies you know the Kardashian Empire in no small part is built on selling a very hyper sexual version of femininity sexual sexuality and basically selling You could argue immodesty okay are there positive representations of media of women in media today what are they how do we Wade through the bad and celebrate the good so what I’m going to do is break down how I see true femininity versus toxic femininity this also matters a lot right now because there’s so much conversation about toxic masculinity you’ve probably heard this I just did a podcast episode with Nancy Piercy the author author Professor who talked about her book The Toxic war on masculinity and that’s really a common phrase in culture today toxic masculinity and it is usually referencing that man who’s that Uber alpha male who is all about himself all about his power he really doesn’t care about other people it’s this machismo attitude and people denigrate that and it’s understandable why because you ask your average man and Nancy mentioned this in the last podcast you know what what is that funeral if you’re at a funeral as a man and you’re celebrating a great man what has he celebrated for well typically he celebrated for his honor for his Integrity for his service of his family for his hard work to provide and protect that’s how we understand across cultures a really great and Noble man so the toxic man as our culture calls him or the toxic masculinity as our culture calls it is actually a not a real masculinity it’s a false version of it and true masculinity is about providing and protect and caring for the being strong for one’s loved ones okay so what does that have to do then with femininity is there a toxic femininity that is the kind of partner or the enemy you would even say of the toxic masculine we don’t talk about that that much in today’s culture because I think women in some ways are infantilized today women are seen as the kind of Perpetual victim it’s hard to see the woman as in any time the villain there’s a lot of I think passes that women get for behavior in our culture and Men maybe are held to a higher standard people some people blame feminism for this to say that we over corrected the inequalities between men and women to now make it more in unequal for men other people say well it’s because we pushed women into men’s places saying that that’s where they belong they need to work like a man act like a man and they weren’t actually working or acting like men they were acting and working like the worst men meaning the promiscuous man well I’m going to be promiscuous like a dude well that’s not even being like a true man because true men are Faith oil you’re just being like an extra bad man and a bad woman so all of these conversations are happening which I think is good but I wanted to break down what I see is the toxic feminine because I do think it exists today and the toxic feminine today the first reality of the toxic feminine today in my opinion has to do with people call it narcissism and that could be kind of a clinical personality disorder name you could give it but the attitude that it’s all about me it’s all about me so the toxic feminine is obsessed with oneself to the point of not acknowledging valuing or caring for other people so the toxic feminine is it’s always not my fault it’s always other people’s fault I’m always the victim I’m not going to take responsibility it’s a hyper obsession with one’s own physicality one’s own beauty or one’s own career or one’s own anything and it is so self-focused and self-absorbed that it doesn’t make space for love ultimately because love is about willing the good for other people and of ultimately receiving good from God and other people you can’t do that if you’re totally obsessed with yourself unfortunately a lot in our society is encouraging women to be obsessed with themselves all about self-actualization I mean the entire pro-abortion movement today as they call it the women’s rights movement which is such a crazy misnomer to say that women’s rights are to kill a baby which include a lot of many females in the womb tiny females but the whole idea of women’s rights is your power to kill a person a human life in you your own child son or daughter think about how crazy that is and how much that is toxic femininity to say that my power as a woman is to kill another woman or man a boy or a girl in my womb Michelle Williams received the Golden Globe she’s a very famous actor and this was a couple years ago and she went to the award ceremony clutching this golden idol basically this golden trophy thanking her right to choose the abortion that she had had years earlier in her career thanking the death of her child for the success of her career when you put this in someone’s hands you’re acknowledging the choices that they make as an actor Moment by moment scene by scene day by day but you’re also acknowledging the choices they make as a person I’m grateful for the acknowledgment of the choices I’ve made and I’m also grateful to have lived at a moment in our society where this exists because women and as girls things can happen to our bodies that are not our choice I’ve tried my very best to live a life of my own making and not just a series of events that happened to me but one that I could stand back and look at and recognize my handwriting all over sometimes messy and scrawling sometimes careful and precise but one that I had carved with my own hand and I wouldn’t have been able to do this without employing a woman’s right to choose fairfab they’re all cheering they’re cheering for an abortion the death of a baby that she’s celebrating and crediting with her shoes when to have my children and with whom when I felt supported and able to balance Our Lives knowing as all mothers know that the scales must end will tip towards our children now I know my choices might look different than yours but thank God or whomever you pray to that we live in a country founded on the principle that I am free I mean it’s a it’s completely picturesque clutching that literally a golden trophy that’s going to turn into dust you know in the future at some point like that does not have an eternal soul that has no you know human value as the reason she was glad that she killed her baby that she exercised the right to choose as she said it so that is I think a almost perfect to a t depiction a living story a living parable of toxic femininity that I prize so much my career my physical Beauty My Success that I would literally kill a child and thank the death of my child for some sort of worldly Accolade like this golden calf basically so I mean it’s very dark stuff right and that is the excess of our culture today that dark view of Womanhood that Womanhood is about me me me me me me and it’s at the cost of you even if you are a small vulnerable dependent child okay another bit of toxic femininity to put in there people heavily criticized Amber Heard last year and the Amber Heard the Johnny Depp trial when she and he went to court to debate whether or not and to to determine before a jury of their peers whether or not Amber Heard had unfairly slandered Johnny Depp and ruined his career and ultimately she was found guilty for misleading the public about their relationship because she claimed that she was completely victim and he was this aggressor but the facts were much more complex than that it looked like they were both aggressors and maybe they were both victims at different points in the relationship I found the whole trial very sad quite frankly and heartbreaking that the whole world was just glued to the screen watching this really train wreck of a relationship playing out I mean there have been broken parts of everyone’s life and this time in their lives was put on full display for the whole world to see it was completely tragic but there were news articles afterwards talking about Amber heard’s Behavior saying is this the toxic feminine so that kind of title started going in sort of being used in media as something to apply to Amber’s Behavior because she ultimately people said manipulated Johnny Depp and was deceitful in how she behaved to try to paint him as the villain and her as the victim now you could probably argue the same things about Johnny Depp so this isn’t to say he’s coming out smelling like roses I think he was actually abusive too but the reality here is she was living out very very publicly tragically we all got to see it in the history of her behavior with Johnny a very toxic femininity so that femininity in that case was in many ways using her beauty and her really her personality her Charisma and charm to manipulate other people and that’s another trait of toxic femininity where femininity which can be so beautiful and so inviting and can inspire people to Greatness instead the beauty of the feminine is used to manipulate to inspire lust or to otherwise deceive or to control other people using one’s sex appeal to control other people unfortunately we see some very popular public figures women doing this and they’re doing it very overtly an example of course would be the Kardashian Empire and again I’m not judging anyone’s Hearts here because I do not know their hearts but I can say that the representation of Womanhood is often very crass and by crass I mean you obviously the female body is beautiful and it’s something that should be celebrated and cherished but when you’re overtly using your sexuality to sell things you know your body parts to sell things to inspire lust or greed or Envy that’s where it crosses the line and that’s what pornography ultimately is pornography is not about respecting one’s body and respecting other people’s bodies it’s about hyper objectifying yourself to inspire lust in other people and unfortunately a lot of the Kardashian Empire has used actual lust and Scandal around sex in order to build their monetary Empire I mean Kim Kardashian’s career was launched with a sex tape and so much of her Persona online is hypersexual I mean there’s these very Infamous images of her hyper-sexualized in order to attract attention that’s not I would say true femininity I think that’s a toxic version of femininity and it’s not a good role model for future Generations now again I’m not trying to attack Kim Kardashian or any Kardashian personally here I think that I’m sure they have good intentions and I think that they can be they can be really good Role Models but I think it’s important to call out that part of toxic femininity today just like a man’s toxic masculinity can be using one’s power Men at Large or more physically powerful than women men’s toxic masculinity can be you know rape and assault and attacking women and attacking those that are vulnerable using your physicality to harm other people a form of toxic femininity can also take its place in physical abuse it’s not like women can ever be physically abusive but another form of toxic femininity can be using one’s body to deceive to manipulate to seduce to inspire lust now I’ll say one last thing is an important Nuance here it is very possible for a woman to is very modestly close to inspire lust if the man’s a lustful man so I’m not saying that men women are responsible in that sense for a man’s loss I think this is a very important point but I do think women are responsible for respecting their bodies and modesty to the point where they’re not using their bodies to sexually exploit or sexually seduce other people so that’s just an important distinction I want to add there okay a few other qualities of toxic femininity this stuff is kind of rough so I’m looking forward to getting to what I see is true femininity and some positive role models but I guess we started with the toxic because I was talking about toxic masculinity so now we’re talking toxic femininity but a couple other things so I just talked about toxic femininity using beauty or sex to manipulate or control or Inspire lust right another toxic version would be rejecting feminine beauty altogether I think that’s also a toxic femininity so if you reject your femininity you hate your body you know if you are at war with your body you’re not going to be able to live your feminine beauty and genius obviously there’s extreme cases of this with gender dysphoria where women actually or girls actually hate their bodies or are trained to hate their bodies you know we had a great interview with Chloe Cole about this we talked to Dr Marion Grossman about this play the social contagion of hitting young girls today who just hate their body going through puberty and so they just want to destroy their female body and be boys you know they don’t want their breasts they don’t want to go become curvier they hate that about themselves this is tragic and I would say in this case it’s kind of a toxic femininity that is imposed on them by a emotional disorder or a mental health disorder that they’re struggling with and they need love care and support but what happens in a society that weaponizes toxic femininity and tells girls oh you should be this way you should hate your body or if you believe you’re born in the wrong body then you must be and we will literally help you go to war with your body by having a double mastectomy like in the case of Chloe Cole the young girl had a double mastectomy at just age or in the case of countless other girls going through this so toxic femininity also isn’t just about exploiting one’s feminine sexuality to control and to inspire less but toxic femininity can also be about a rejection of one’s feminine and a coldness towards one’s own femininity all right a couple other things that I think are important I think toxic femininity also sees men as conquests and as enemies so it’s two things one one or the other Conquest I’m gonna conquer this man and I’m gonna control him and seduce him and manipulate him or toxic femininity could be I want to compete with this man I’m at war with this man he’s my enemy you know he’s against me and I do see this in certain streams of or strands of feminism today where sometimes men are just seen as all bad and all the enemy basically we take the worst men and we say that’s all men and that’s wrong you know I think the metoo movement had a lot of good aspects to it to call out sexual behavior or assault and and you know bad behavior in the workplace and to condemn it but when you do that take it to the point of believe all women and that any woman accusing any man is always right and that a man has no defense for themselves if they’re accused of anything I think that’s where it becomes toxic to say that women are always the victim men are always the villain and that men are always can always be the enemy I don’t think that that’s true okay a couple other things toxic femininity I mentioned this earlier with Michelle women Michelle Williams hates fertility hates children hates our ability our unique superpower as women to be mothers look your ability to bring life into the world as a woman is what makes you uniquely a woman now that doesn’t mean every woman’s gonna be a biological mother maybe there is a problem and they’re not able to be or maybe they’re not called to be that because they will never marry they’re not called to marriage that can be the case for many women and that still means they can live out their femininity in other ways but your ability to bring life into the world is a deeply and uniquely feminine trait it is I would argue the most unique of all feminine traits it is what your body is makes your body different than a man’s body your ability to bring life into the world so what happens when women at large are told that their empowerment or their success is to be powerful and successful and not a mother and that they should actually kill their babies if they become mothers I mean it’s the most anti-feminine thing you can imagine and yet that’s what’s being sold to us in the name of women’s rights so toxic femininity absolutely includes a rejection of children and a rejection of our fertility think about birth control today birth control at large are pills that we take to effectively temporarily sterilize us and shut down our natural beautiful hormonal systems so that we can be constantly fake pregnant our body actually with hormonal birth control thinks we’re constantly fake pregnant so that we are not able to get pregnant it is the most anti-woman Healthcare practice I mean besides abortion that is out there it’s basically attacking our beautiful biology and our fertility and treating it like a sickness or a disease your fertility is not a disease your fertility is a sign of Health it’s a your Womanhood it’s beautiful if you have issues with your fertility like heavy periods or cystic acne then instead of taking up this this pill a birth control pill like a Panacea discover and go to a healthcare repetition or who will really go under the root cause of that why are you facing this struggle with your cycle or you know with your skin or whatever it is with your hormones how can we balance your hormones and get you healthier instead of shutting down and suppressing your hormones so your femininity is a beautiful gift toxic femininity rejects your body and the physical systems your reproductive system as a woman and treats it like an enemy or a threat the last thing I want to mention about toxic femininity is I believe that toxic femininity also weaponizes emotions so emotions are a part of life I’m going to do an episode in the future on emotions actually everyone experiences emotions we all have them so more than others and they can be very intense and powerful and emotions can be very very powerful mechanisms to be used for good they can teach us things they can give us insights about ourself and experiences in other people so emotions aren’t good and they’re not bad they just are and they can teach us things but emotions shouldn’t rule us and I do think there’s a tendency in our society to be ruled by our emotions I feel this way and therefore I think that this is true right so my object my subjective experience of my emotions means that X Y or Z is true or not true or I get to decide my truth based on how I feel and yes your feelings are real and they should be acknowledged and they should be dealt with but your feelings do not need to direct your reality we have free will to make our decisions and our choices so I do think there’s sort of this you know there can be a hyper emphasis on feelings to the point that feelings are ruling the roost as opposed to feelings are important input but they should not rule the roost and again maybe we’ll address this in a future episode let me know if you’d like to see that all right so that’s toxic femininity Round Up All About Me uses Beauty and sex appeal to control and manipulate rejects feminine or rejects feminine beauty entirely sees men as the enemy or his conquests sees children as enemies burdens doesn’t honor commitments weaponizes or is ruled by emotion oh yeah I forgot one more thing I think toxic femininity also puts other women down and is always competitive with other women and sees other women as threats as opposed to collaborators I don’t really want to use a pop culture example here I’m sure there are I’m sure you guys have one but I think you know what I’m talking about you know cattiness pettiness attacking other women jealousy like all that stuff is not true femininity it is toxic femininity all right that was a long list let’s go positive now positive femininity what are the things what are the things that if a great woman let’s say like your grandmother passes away and people are talking about her life what are the things that people remember as the beautiful things about her I recently attended the funeral of my grandmother and what she remembered what she was remembered for included these attributes her love of her family her love of her kids her love of her husband her beauty you know her charm not in a way to harm other people or manipulate but to bring joy and to bring the family together and to celebrate Beauty and to celebrate the the beautiful aspects of life you know fashion and food and the things that can just make life so lovely also her kindness her generosity how she would go out of her way to welcome people to the home and her Hospitality that she was always inviting people and making friends wherever she went she would often say to anyone that she just like met on the string Street she’d say you and I are related and she’d like joke around about how basically everyone was related to her people loved it I mean people thought it was so Charming but people remember like her vivaciousness and her kindness and her family orientedness and I’m gonna guarantee you that if you think right now of a woman in your life that you admire or a great woman in the past that you look up to maybe you don’t even know them personally what is it about this woman that you truly admire yeah it can it might include that her physical beauty or her fashion sense yeah of course those things are wonderful but I’m gonna guess that it includes her goodness it includes her virtue it includes whether or not she loved her family and whether or not she was like family focused she cared about her kids she cared about her marriage she cared about the community I’m gonna guess that though or she cared about the nation I’m going to guess that those things made her femininity so beautiful and here’s a little secret some of the things that are most beautiful about the most feminine female are virtues that when a man lives out the same virtues makes them beautifully masculine isn’t that a cool thought like let’s take courage for an example a courageous woman a woman who is fearless and speaks her mind and her convictions of her heart not to harm other people but to help them and she does it in a way that’s feminine that’s loving and good that’s a beautiful feminine role model similarly a man who’s espousing that same virtue of courage and he’s Fearless in standing up for what’s right and defending the vulnerable looks just beautifully masculine so that’s the secret to a lot of this is that virtues are what underpin the most beautiful feminine and masculine they’re just lived out in that more feminine way versus masculine way which is just unique to each person each man or woman and by the way share in the comments a story of that maybe grandmother or mother or Aunt or just someone that you admire and you believe left a truly beautiful Legacy as a woman all right so what are the qualities of a truly feminine woman and in many ways they’re the reverse of the toxic woman so first of all there’s someone who works in harmony with other people in their Community you know they’re focused on interdependence and love not radical I’m all about myself but they’re focused on I love other people and I love my family and if I have children I love my children and I I am focused on you know honoring my parents and if I’m married honoring my husband and they’re focused on love love is about wanting the good for other people as well as you want the good for yourself to be loved and that feminine woman has that in Spades she just exudes love and she’s about may I use that word interdependence she recognizes that yeah she’s responsible for her actions but she needs other people and other people need her and that’s a beautiful thing another thing about true femininity is it celebrates true beauty and and our femininity I mean that’s why I think Barbie is so popular right now is it sort of TAPS into this desire to celebrate the feminine and yeah I’ll have some criticisms of sort of the ideology of the film too but the thing that’s clearly you know attractive about it is that it’s celebrating this very feminine presentation and I think people are hungry for that and that’s a beautiful thing like you look at past female role models or women in history especially like recent history that people admire and you think about like Grace Kelly of Monaco you know the prince princess Grace she was so exquisitely classy like her wedding dress with the lace sleeves and the way she carried herself it exuded a confident gentle femininity or people admire Princess Diana what are some of the qualities we admire in Princess Diana her fashion her vivaciousness also she seemed very intentional about caring for the vulnerable and the poor she seemed very much caring for her family now you could also have criticisms of Diana and her behavior of course but generally generally speaking she’s beloved for this presentation of the feminine and for this winsomeness that she had another example of a universal role model for many people is Mother Teresa. Now Mother Teresa isn’t known as like the fashion icon she wore one dress her whole life she wore the blue and white sorry but Mother Teresa not being a cover model for a fashion magazine was more influential than arguably any model in human history because of her acts of love and she lived out her femininity in service of the poorest of the poor in Calcutta India and she was just lovely and beautiful in being a mother even though she wasn’t a biological mother she was effectively an adoptive or a spiritual mother of so many Souls so she lived femininity in a clearly beautiful way even though it wasn’t that overtly you know overt representation of beautiful femininity in one’s appearance as a girl I actually put a picture on my wall of Mother Teresa’s feet so her feet were just very sort of Tangled to Tangled and weathered by walking basically Barefoot on the streets of Calcutta her toes were bent in and she had calluses and you know this was not like the feet of a woman who gets pedicures I’ll be honest I get pedicures Mother Teresa did not get pedicures but I put that on my wall as an example of true beauty I mean she had the feet of a servant of others of a loving mother who sacrificed her entire life out of love for others now she didn’t sacrifice to the point of self-harm I think that’s an important note Mother Teresa was actually really intentional about getting her sleep she was super intentional about prayer she required all of her sisters to actually end the missionaries of Charity to actually take tea time every day and take time to have tea together and like commune together so part of her femininity wasn’t just like work and Toil and you know having damaged feet but it was about caring for caring for her body and caring for The Other Women entrusted to her leadership all right a few other things about true femininity what is it that we so admire let’s say Jackie Kennedy she’s another icon for many women today she was very classy she was very feminine well I think it was that Jackie Kennedy was the yeah you could argue long-suffering wife of her husband a president and she was always by his side and upon his death she fought for his legacy and yeah there were many accusations about his infidelity and all these things but she her representation was of that faithful loyal wife who was classy who was kind who stood by his side even at his death and I think she’s Remembered in part as an icon because of her loyalty and her beautiful loyalty again I’m not making a judgment here about like you should be loyal to a cheating man or anything like that I’m just saying what we admire about her largely is that commitment that she had her classiness but also what was an apparent a commitment people saw it as a commitment to her marriage and to her Nation quite frankly during H and enter her marriage so I know this is controversial but recently Michelle Obama first former first lady of the United States of America made some really beautiful comments about marriage now I do not support Michelle Obama’s politics she is very pro-abortion although she’s not particularly vocal about it she has been in the past she’s not now which is good I hope she softens and becomes pro-life but she did say some very beautiful and true things about marriage and I do want to listen to that we’ve been married for years I know you know if I fell out with him for and we had great years I’d take those odds any time but I don’t we glamorize marriage and in this day and age marriage is more about the dress and the dresses yes and the proposal and the honeymoon and all the stuff around it and young people aren’t ready for the real of marriage I mean I think there’s a lot of wisdom to that and she’s talking about the importance of marriage as a partnership and commitment Fidelity to your spouse so yeah kudos to Michelle Obama for making that distinction and I think more of that is good that is a representation of true femininity in that yes it’s about Fidelity it’s about commitment it’s not just about what is typically seen as the feminine aspects of a marriage you know getting married and the ring and the dress and the proposal and the honeymoon and the Instagram pictures but it’s about lifelong commitment and raising children so I’m not saying she went all the way to say all the good things it was about but she definitely had a good point that we get it wrong if marriage becomes about what is ultimately superficial which again can be the tendency I think of some women today it’s all about the Instagram shot right as opposed to marriage is about love and commitment and sacrifice all right a few other things I think a beautiful woman and true femininity is about celebrating other women you know we don’t need to be competitive with each other as women every single woman is made uniquely herself there is only one of you and to compare yourself to another woman physically or your skill set or your experiences or your relationships there is only one of you and part of I think our beauty is the feminine as women is to discover our self-worth and our value as we are now it can be hard to do this if we didn’t have unconditional love growing up especially from a male figure like our fathers I mean there can be wounds with this but it’s in discovering and healing our sense of feminine identity and valuing just the way you look with every bit of your facial features every bit of your personality love the way that you are and yes you want to be better you want to be healthier stronger wiser of course but accepting yourself and valuing the gifts and the attributes that you have been given helps you not compete with other women helps you not be jealous or envious or whether to be Strife or disharmony and I think a true femininity has a confidence and a uprising of One’s Own Beauty however that is each person’s different and that doesn’t put them in competition with other women so celebrate your femininity celebrate the unique woman that you are and that nobody else is a couple more things the feminine woman and the true feminine woman is really a celebration of the ability to be a mother our femininity is very much tied to our ability to mother and children I do think if we are not excited about children not that we would have them ourselves because we’re not all called to that but if we are not if we don’t understand how beautiful a child is I think that has to do with something at war with ourselves actually that we need to tap into part of the feminine is celebrating the child and the beauty of that little child and the dependence of that child on us and the need for feminine nurture and love as well as masculine and nurture and love so if you as a woman are living at your true femininity you’ll be celebration celebrating your fertility you’ll be celebrating the ability of a woman to be a mother and prizing that prizing children I think the fiercest Defender of a child should be his or her mother and father but the mother should be fiercely protective of her baby of any baby that she comes across and that’s what the prolife movement is built on is a fierce protectiveness that’s why I’m pro-life because I’ve been able to tap into that femininity inside me of fierce protectiveness for the child and I’ll do anything to fight for the child and that’s why the prolic movement is populated with so many women I mean men should be protective too but you’re a woman you can bring life into the world you want to nourish and protect that life and so true femininity is about celebrating our superpower as women which is to bring life into the world one last thing is that women and true femininity is about honor and character it is about keeping commitments it is about yeah Rising above maybe even our own emotions to choose what is right even when it’s hard and I think that when we look at like Saint Francis Cabrini you know there’s a movie being made about her that’s fantastic right now and she is this woman who courageously left everything she knew in Italy to come with no money to the United States she was rejected because she was an Italian immigrant and she was seen as less than and she came to serve the poorest of the poor in New York City and she gave it all to protect the vulnerable and to care for them and she overcame some of the toughest circumstances to do that and so her honor her Integrity her character her service her virtues are what are so admirable and will be remembered for centuries to come so to wrap up here Taylor Swift’s concerts are sold out Barbie is being sold out femininity is more than the color pink what is a woman yes it’s about adult biological female but it’s so much more so much more than that a woman is someone who fully Embraces virtue and love and service of others I hope this episode encouraged you to live out your unique femininity or if you’re a man listening encourage you to celebrate femininity I think it’s one of the most beautiful forces in the world the power of a woman to be who she’s called to be and to love it’s what I aspire to let me know in the comments what you think of this episode your take on femininity female role models that you might have why they are role models to you don’t forget to like this page and subscribe to our YouTube channel and to give us five stars on whatever podcast app you use leave a comment a review this will help the podcast reach more people also we have launched our patreon we have a small but growing Community there be one of the first to join at any amount each month as a patron of the patreon and I will be doing a special live just for our patrons to answer questions and to share some thoughts so go check out our patreon link is in the bio thanks so much guys and I’ll see you next week